[i]"So if he does ask ( I doubt he will ) I think I will say it was for me to get some perspective and distance. It has nothing to do with how I feel about you or is in anyway meant as something negative towards you."
Busting,
Thank you for your response. I like what you suggested and will keep it in the back of my mind to use if needed. It says what you need to say without judgement or suggestion of punishment. As you say, they will likely not notice, or if they do, not ask about the changes.
Not to give you any false hopes, but I think it might be a good sign that you get a sense that your husband wants to find a way back, but just can't figure it out. But then, I always go back to believing none of what they say and only 50% of what they do. So who really knows?!?
One thing we can count on for sure, and that it that things change minute to minute. In some weird way, that is somewhat consoling to me. Tomorrow they may feel differently, and likely by next week it will change again. So we really don't know what the future holds.......time and patience are our friends.
"Patience, patience, patience, is what the sea teaches. Patience and faith. One should lie empty, open, choiceless as a beach, waiting for a gift from the sea.......each cycle of the tide is valid, each cycle of the wave is valid, each cycle of a relationship is valid....the sea recedes and returns eternally." ~ Anne Morrow Lindbergh
