If you recite gossip and lay accusations on her to pressure her into admitting that she doesnt respect your job, you will have given her several more reasons to not want to be around you. What do you hope to gain by trying to get her to admit that? Or by trying to get her to defend herself from your suspicion of it? You may get a moment of satisfaction, though not likely, but you will be guaranteed she will want less to do with you not more.

Give her space. Be proud of your work that supports a family. If she right now looks down on it, which you really dont know, you win nothing by being defensive. Let her deal with her thoughts on her own. Just be a man only a fool would leave. That is ALL you can do.

Gal is so important, to be with people who know nothing about your sitch and just see you for you. Gotta go find those people.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.