I don't post often, but your recent comments ring true for me. I also recently made a decision to go NC with my H. He as filed for D and our 60 day waiting period is up, but he has yet to schedule the final court hearing. (not sure what he is waiting for, but I am trying to let go of the why and just accept)
My H and I and all three boys get along very well. We have been successful at having family time, and doing things together, but lately, with things in the seemingly final stages, and knowing my H is still involved with another woman, it hasn't felt good to me to continue on in this way. When thinking about my H recently and potentially seeing him, I have had several times when my gut check tells me this is not good. And I think for now, I have to honor that. I have explained my boundary around this with our boys. They are older and get it. I have been at this for 2 and 1/2 years, and I can honestly say, whatever is going on, my gut says to do something different and protect myself more, so I am. And frankly, I have never had this kind of visceral response to my situation until now. Weird, but I am listening to me.
I know we do this for ourselves and I understand this and agree with it. I am curious, Busting, if you or anyone else has a response prepared for your spouse on the off chance that he/she ask about the shift to NC? I realize most often our S's are in la la land and don't notice or give a hoot about what we are doing or how we are responding. If it does happen, do we ignore any inquiry althogether because we are NC? I may be missing the obvious here...... but if your H asked you why you are not contacting him, what would you say? Thanks, and I hope I am not highjacking here. Back56
