Those are a couple of bummer updates RLA. It sure sounds like H isn't ready to face his demons, but as AS said, at least he is continuing MC/IC, so perhaps he'll get there in time.
I am glad you have gotten a handle on your triggers and some of your issues...keep digging in there, keep working on you. One thing I notice in your post is that you still seem to want to control H...you still want him to do it your way. Try to let go of that. I think the more you push, the further he'll retreat.
I remember having that conflict feeling all the time...it's not a great place to be, for either party.
How is your GAL going? Are you sliding back to old habits too?
