Again, Thank You all for your condolences and support. I don't know how much time I will have in the near term to contribute here.
Mom’s memorial service was yesterday. Her church family arranged most of the service and the fellowship afterward. Several of my in-laws attended and SIL2 offered her memories. My daughter delivered a eulogy; I and my sister did not. There were many memories shared by the congregation.
She touched so many lives. So many memories.
We have a few weeks remaining to ready her home for occupancy. I do not know if the kids will be able to make their plans work. They have been squabbling one minute and laughing the next. They are focusing on minute details and most of the conflict is related to this change and the speed it has arrived in. There is some misplaced anger and feelings of inequality. I think these are outgrowths of differences in their grieving processes. I arbitrated one discussion and while I thought some conflict was resolved it boiled back up the next day.
This is not a place I can or should focus. I saw a need to move a conversation past a sticking point and offered to help. This is not something I will do routinely. They are adults and normally are capable of working through their differences.
My sister is in town this week and I must work the first three days. She is going through small items and making telephone calls filling my schedule and obligating me. Of this I am certain. It needs to be done and if she can schedule these meetings while she is in the area I will not need to spend extra time telling her how each of them went. We are 50/50 partners in this estate. So the more details we work through together the better.
Oddly I feel serene most of the time. There is some sadness still, but overall I am surprised by how fast and far I believe I have come through the change curve and grieving process. Doubtless some fresh challenge or insult will arrive to disturb me. I expect to be challenged and feel overwhelmed again. For right now though I will enjoy a minute’s peace.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
