Hi, since this B last Monday, H has told me he will "work on it," and I've agreed to stay committed to looking and feeling my best, which includes working out more and eating right. He said he will do the same (I don't have an issue with how he looks). He took me on a dinner and movie date this weekend, which went well, and then we went swimming at my ILs yesterday as a family and had a good time. I was starting to feel more confident in our situation turning around for the better, when this morning I decided to check our phone bill online. I see a ton of text messages to/from a woman who he has been friends with for 10+ years (they have kept in touch and will go through phases of talking more and then letting off). I used to have a problem with him talking so much to this OW, and I was very suspicious of their friendship. However, over time, and after sometimes snooping at their texts, I realized they seemed to be pretty innocent and I do not believe they've ever crossed any physical boundaries. It does make me very uncomfortable/nervous that they are talking so much again during this time of difficulty in our relationship. I told him last week it seemed suspicious that he was so gung-ho on leaving and he said I seemed to be insinuating he was interested in someone else and he said that was not the case, he was just physically unattracted to me and was not happy. He has also not worn his wedding ring since last week which makes me so mad, since we are still married and he has promised to work on our relationship. He still refuses counseling, because he says they will not be able to make him magically attracted to me again. I told him that he used to be attracted to me, so I think he can be again, because it's not like he never was and he said, "true." I am at a loss of what to do at this point. I am afraid if I confront him about OW friend, or him not wearing his wedding ring, I will cause a blow up, which I don't want to do.
