Dear Busting, Thank you so much for this post. You have learned so much through this awful process. I, for one, have gained a lot just from reading what you have written today.
You are right, we are survivors; we should not fear the future now.
We struggle at times, and we feel anger and resentment. In this we are normal, surely.
On the birthday gift - if it had not been such a good choice for him - from people who really knew him and loved him, your H would probably not have felt the need to avoid it.
They run from us because it's too painful to stay. So, really, how could he accept such a wonderful gift from you?
You are not mean. You are doing what you need to do. In fact, you have shown him continuing compassion.
Don't doubt yourself now. NC is hard, but sometimes it's just what's required.
