I was just thinking that you're stressing yourself unnecessarily over going to see the lawyer that's all. Until I hear anything from his solicitor, I'm not going to act. My H might be bluffing, but yours is a different situation.
I've not yet reached that situation, I'm not looking forward to it!
My parents don't know what's going on either, I'm surprised your H hasn't told his parents. I'm going to have to tell my parents soon, but I'm waiting until it's absolutely necessary to do so.
Are you still being supported financially by your H? Is that why you need him to know when you're going grocery shopping? I would just get in my car and go smile Ask him for the money if you need to, but don't let him be involved in the shopping. I'm sure you know what he likes and doesn't like by now smile If you forget anything of his, then he can get it himself! If he wants to be on his own, then he needs to do his own shopping, his own laundry, etc. After all when he gets D, he will have to do it all then. When he sees that you're not going to do anything for him, he may change his mind as he will realise how much you actually do for him. Just a thought smile

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T22 M21
S20 - Got high functioning autism
3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her
11/2000 H moves back home
2/4/13 H moves out
H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!