I have been cutting back on the boards, not intentionally, just that I have been extra busy trying to catch back up at work (last three months work was not exactly my focus, IYKWIM...) and I am trying to strike more of a realistic balance. Also, last week or two I have been in a resentment fueled funk. For a variety of reasons, some of the anger I have repressed as I have been responding to her MLC has been percolating to the surface and giving me way too much of a "I have been a WAY better H than I have been given credit for and if she can't see it to he** with her" attitude, which is not the best when DBing. I will try to catch up with more specifics later.
CB
I agree taking a break from the boards can be a good thing. I know first hand that this place saves us during our toughest times, but it seems it's also too easy to spend a lot of time here when we should be out doing other things. All things in moderation I guess.
When I feel like you did in the section I bolded in your post above, I like to remind myself that it's not about me. We could have been the best partner ever and our spouses still likely would have ended up in crises dealing with the issues they now are facing.
Sure, none of us were perfect, but I know for a fact that many (most?) of the issues my wife is fighting with now were not of my making. I kinda get the feeling she's realizing this too.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
