MLC by MIL death/daughter car accident/new job

[Live4myDay]

So I'm working on detachment. That is quiet obvious I'm not there yet. Tomorrow would have been our 24th anniversary. I know. Who cares...it's just always been a special day and that is hard to forget. We eloped. Planned it all and married in a small church with a few close friends and his sister. Wonderful wedding. I wore my great aunt's wedding dress.

So we've been divorced 2 years. Last year we had a big texting go-a-bout. He text me looking for pictures of his close friend that passed away a few years earlier. I was so emotionally upset that he could ask for that on our anniversary, yet has never even asked for one picture of our children. I have them all. That angered me. But when I text back that I couldn't go through the pictures and that it was still too difficult. He replied, "why?" Seriously, I told him. Acted all "oh" .

So this year I know I won't hear from him and he probably forgot all about it. He is with OW this week. After his two week trip to Europe he was extremely busy at work and traveling from Detroit, Boston, Cleveland, and Pittsburgh. He told my D that he needed a break...Seriously. I can't make this up.

And last week was our S 21st birthday. You'd think he'd be all proud and want to take him out to his favorite local place and have a beer with him. I know I was so excited to go with my dad when I was of age. It's like a ritual. All my son got was a card with money in it. Sad. I know I wasn't able to be there for obvious reasons, but come 'on he could have made plans with him while he was home.

I need to detach... why is this so easy for him and so hard for me. We are miles apart, never talk, etc.

"Detachment is not being affected by the actions, comments, or behaviors of others."