Mizj, Thanks for posting that link. I did go back and read it. It does clear up some of the confusion. My h cycles from sane and seeing the pain he has caused everyone to it being all about him.
Nothing new on the horizon. We just got back from a small trip for S19's soccer. They are usually very fun trips but h couldn't take what people thought about his A and pretty much blamed it on me. Or the after affect seems to be my fault.
Haven't had a chance to read your sitch but will do as soon as I can. I always like to see how others are handling this.
You are so right about zero expectations. I think when things start going halfway ok you start thinking things are getting better, then you take several steps back. One thing I haven't fallen back on is working on myself though. Even H has noticed the changes but when he gets mad he says "you haven't changed". I want to be a better person. I don't want to be the person who gets mad about small things.
M 48 H 50 M 25 T 27 D 20,18,15 6/11 H filed 3/12 H dropped 4/12 H moved out
