GotoGirl, sounds like you are getting tons of mixed messages...I get the same thing (except I'm not brave enough to bring up R talk & hear H is still wanting a D. I can only take hearing it so many times before I feel like I'll lose my mind)!!

I'm still allowing the family time...because I want it, I can't face losing my husband fully...yet. I too bounce between wanting to give up & wanting to keep standing. It hurts to stand & be rejected.

I just wish our spouses could understand that we are standing BECAUSE we value them & our relationships. The very thing we're accused of not caring about. Maybe late, but whatever happened to "better late than never"?

Maybe someday they will see how much we've tried, R or not.

H48 M46
T26 M25
S25 D21
10/4/12 BD - ILYBINILWY, S
10/7/12 H Leaves, works 2 hours away
H Done 1/13
H tells S he wants D 2/13
NO R talk since - nothing filed
We live together weekends