I do not thnk I could have lived with my MLCer. hard though it has been to have virtually zero contact, it has enabled me to heal, make a new life, and see there are worse things than being alone.
Just has a long talk with the h of a good friend of mine who is rapidly becoming an alcoholic. But denies it totally. I do not envy them their relationship one little bit. I am much happier and more fulfilled on my own than with someone dysfunctional.
So I raise my glass to all of you who copes with an in-house/high contact MLCer. I used not to think this way, and missed my xh but now I realise I am better off without a crazy person in my life, and in my face.
I can vouch for the long, on and off, drama filled affair ultimately ending, and not well.
But the relationship takes a lot out of the MLCer, imo. On a good day I feel sorry for them, and on a bad day exasperated and angry. There are far more good days now!!
