Looks like I gave her a dose of reality yesterday after her letter because after that conversation she's been nice to me and even slept in the MBR just when I was getting use to my king size bed. Forgot to mention last week that she moved out of MBR and yesterday went back. This is coming from a w that wanted to end things badly.
The more I think about it the more I think that she didnt believe that letter herself perhaps it was influenced mostly by OM. It doesn't matter me moving forward if she chose to is real and i will execute, if she doesn't commit to our M.
I think what she wanted was an insurance. Her mentality was to refi and rent an apt, so while she see OM and See if things go well she drops me if not she returns to the house that is almost paid off since she knows how much I love her and will just take her back. But nope, I'm changed and i will not settle to be her second choice. She wants to pursue OM then she will lose me that's the consequence of cheating, she needs to realize that. No way I will be her second choice or plan B.
I know she doubts OM, because in my snooping days, I read one of OMs response saying "don't you ever doubt me". That's the weakness in their A, I know my W doubts him. And when I contacted OMs W a while back, I can see why. I'm really not against snooping if you can handle it. I think it gives you intel on what you're up against.
Anyway, life goes on. I stay poise and confident. Sandi mention to me before, chest out, head up and show confidence.
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
