B, You did real good! And she really did appreciate what you did...so realize that you've continued to show her support. I know it's tough..you feel used, being taken advantage, being strung along...yup..all those thoughts running through your head.
GAWD she sounds so much like my W. My WAW is actually still in our house, I've got the APT...'bout 4 - 5 weeks ago she was complaining about the fact that she should have been the one to move out, but I beat it her to it. Only because I had been living out my suitcase for 7 weeks and I finally decided that if she didn't want me to move back in then I was going to get my own space, re-establish a home base for myself where I could do my work and take care of myself. Just another example of how wacked they can be..I gave her the option first, but she said no. Oh Well.
I aslo agree with your observations about what they do is so calculated. It definately feels that way doesn't it. While my WAW was telling me she was confused, or even got upset that I started to separate the checking accounts...Our Wedding Pictures put themselves away, then 3 weeks ago, any pictures of my family (Mother/Father's Wedding Picture and Brother/Sister In-Law's Wedding Picture), but the Kids picutres remain up.
This I believe is a way they begin going through the PROCESS. Now that REALLY Hurts, to think that they do not want to be reminded of anything to do with YOU.
Again, though... you have to remember that they've been abducted...they're in pain, angry, scared, confused...regardless of how cool they appear. Genuinely be her friend...I know it hurts deep.
Remember there are others who depend on you...who need and want you.
