sorry you find yourself going through so much heartache.
I'm not sure if you are still on moderation - it seems unlikely after 20 some posts. But then too, I only found you because I was rereading some posts I made and I can't seem to find your thread on newcomers...? But I am tired so maybe am just not seeing straight!
Some hints about getting responses.
1. Just like dealing with marriages, it takes patience. If you notice in the Newcomers forum listing of threads, some threads have perhaps 27 replies or posts, but have had 425 views!
2. The fastest way off moderation is to do frequent short posts, on your own thread and others' too.
3. Posting on others threads also helps bring attention to YOU and to your thread.
4. Ask specific questions if you want feedback. Some of your posts read to me as "journaling" - which is absolutely fine and good - but might not prompt someone to leave a post.
Good luck to you.
Update on the job sitch. Have you read DR or DB yet?
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
Good luck to you.
