I have no experience with this personally, except that many peeps here suggest that if the W wants the D and the division of assets, then she should be the one to organise it. At times, it is the only way they realise the enormity of what they are doing and sometimes its enough to reverse the process.
A poster who I follow religiously (I call her my good friend..even though we've never met!) Reaching Higher, was about to sign the D papers, it was the 11th hour and her H changed his mind. He is moving back home and they are working on their M. It does happen.
I think you should sit quietly now, look after yourself and your boys and let it play out. It is a shame that the S believe they will never love us again. We know better here. Its a shame they don't have the benefit of the insight we have.
