Did your W have a rough childhood? I myself had a very lukewarm childhood. No divorce, no abuse, no death, no financial problem (all not that I knew of!) my H on the other hand, had his parents divorced when he was 3 or so and he still remembers being passed around in a parking lot. His beloved step dad died suddenly at 40 something, his beloved grandpa died of an accident...

Having lived through somewhat a normal childhood, I took a marriage lightly. I shouldn't say "lightly" but I thought it wouldn't be hard. My H on the other hand was so afraid of getting married because of the failure of his parents' marriage (but they were 16 and 18! They did their best)

People around me tell me to not beat myself up and I swear I am not. I'm just realizing how lazy I had been in my marriage and most people around us had absolutely NO idea. I made very little effort to be a woman in my marriage. I presented myself very well outside of m, all my H friends think I'm such a cute, devoted wife who dresses nice and cooks home made dinner every night. They would have never even imagined that I would fart.

I got too comfortable... too comfortable that he probably felt he was like my background in my life to his eyes. I focused on organizing house, finances, every house related thing in order and I just needed a H to support me in the background. It's harsh but that's what I was probably doing. So when it came to a baby matter, he probably felt the lowest of all time. "Now she's ready to focus on a baby and skipping me"

M37 H36
M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist
7/12:H broke down
10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after
1/13:H wants to leave
2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving
3/13: S begins