Moving forward together from a mess

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just stumbled upon and this caught my eye too

"I sent her the following text. "Love the communication. So glad I had to see it on facebook. Have fun"

really really a bad move. I cringed as soon as I saw this part. I would have shut down so fast if my H said something like that. If I remember correctly, didn't you do something like that earlier in your piecing when your W was out late, you caved and sent a picture that said something about trust is earned? That cringed my face too. Those texts you send are very passive aggressive in my opinion.

Everything she does should be transparent, I get it. But wouldn't posting pictures of her at a bar be considered transparent because you can see where she is and what she's doing? If she's not being transparent, she definitely wouldn't have posted the pictures of her at a bar on FB. I get you were upset she didn't let you know about changing her mind about staying home but I simply don't understand why it even mattered?
If you guys were supposed to skype or something after she gets home and if she went out without telling you I totally get you'd be upset.

I'm a LBS and not a WAS who had an affair. But if I were one and kept getting texts like that from my LBS, I would feel I'm being watched and punished all the time.

Just a thought..