Bwriter, Thanks so much for your kind response. I've been going through this since the first week in December. My heart has been broken, before finding out about this website..I was headed straight to my attorney's office.
I'm still headed that way as my W has asked for a D ..but I'm still going to be her friend, actually I want to be her truest friend! Believe me I wasn't in that frame of mind in December. But the alternative is not good. If I allow how she hurts me to consume me then anger,desparatness, needing, anxiousness, selfishness, etc. will close the door forever.
Regardless of what she says...she's confused! She's hurting, She's in pain..I want to help her through this, be there. I've had to put my own happiness on the shelf for awhile...a year, maybe two years...who knows.
But our relationship is now being redefined...so just like any new relationship..it starts out as friends FIRST! then grows from there...I'm really learning to LET GO..it's not easy...I have to LET GO every morning when I wake and then go seek encouragement from friends and this website who will lift my spirits!
Your W moving out...don't be discouraged...she needs time and space. It may feel permanent, hopeless, but don't worry about that. If you don't LET her do this..you won't have a chance!
You'll get there! Let me know how you're doing.Take Care!
