Hi Raine ~ I love when they talk, but it's all about them. Or if I say I'm tired and going to bed, and he just keeps right on talking. He is getting better about that reciprocal communication, asking me questions and showing some interest in what I have to say.
My H has used phrases like "I'm in a funk" and "I'm messed up". So while he's never uttered the words MLC, he knows its something.
Our H's are definitely dumpster diving. Maybe they have to feel better about themselves before they can accept love from fabulous ladies such as ourselves
Hi UW ~ thank you for your insight with your H, the OW, and how things went with their A. At least he's good for something lol!!
I feel like my H, on some level, realizes OW is not the answer. And I worry about him feeling just as your xh did - that he's in too deep, so he just keeps going. I also fear his thinks I won't be able to forgive him, so he'll just keep going. And I constantly wonder... Does he really think I don't know ?!?!?
I do believe he's making his way through though, slowly but surely. Just happens to be tearing up our lives in the process
I should have had you drive here while H is away - you could have helped with the sleepover lol!!! And pick me up when I start boo hooing. And talk me into ice cream to cheer me up. Sounds like a good plan to me!
Thank you for sharing - it helps me more than you know. Each word you write is so very valuable to me
Hey Linda Lou ~ you made me laugh out loud with saying your H "jusy whipped it out"! If memory serves me correctly, they do that sometimes lol!!'
I hope and pray that these days at the beach will be a eye opener for him. But there's always the reality that this trip could rejuvenate their R, bringing them closer, delaying the end of the A.
Not much I can do about it one way or another.
But you are right about one thing, I am the prize! FT knows she really can't compete with me. Her smoke and mirrors tricks are starting to show, along with her desperation.
Hey rH ~ I am glad to hear that your PMA is high today!
I think we are both pretty tough ladies, weathering a storm that continually beats upon us emotionally.
It WILL be worth it in the end, rH. I know it
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Not much sleep at the sleepover last night lol! At 11:00, I took away their flashlights. At 11:45, I could still hear them talking. I stood at the door and heard S5 say to his cousin, "Do you want to be a tiger shark?" I thought to myself - I am shutting this down! I went in and threatened to sleep in between them. S5 was horrified, and promised they would go to sleep. It was quiet in there after that
Tired today, which I know can be a trigger for me to feel down. Kids still up early. At swim lessons with boys now. Not sure what plans are for later today (besides naps!) We have nieces birthday party tomorrow. More stuff H is missing.
It will be interesting to see how he feels by the end of his little trip. I always think day one of a vacation is much different than the last day. At some point, no matter how great the vacation, home is missed. Will that be true for H?
Will check in later - have a great day everyone
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
