Tad, I'm sorry to hear that your mother is in pain, but I'm glad she's on a morphine patch. It's not easy for her these days and you and your sons should try to visit or call her and check on her. You may not realize it, but when you contact her, it lifts her spirits a bit and right now, that's what she needs. She needs to know that her family is there for her.
Tad, there is absolutely no way of knowing what the future holds for you, unless you are planning to become a monk or priest and that would mean no marriage in the deal. The future is yet to unfold for you and right now, you should be living in the present. Allow God to have time to work on you and help you find some inner peace. Okay?
As for your lady friend, sounds like she's rushing it a bit. Tad, man up and tell her how you feel about having casual sex w/her. As for meeting her parents...how is this lady? I would think of meeting someone's parents unless the relationship was getting serious. Seriously, if you don't feel anything right now, be honest and tell her that you enjoy her company, but you are not ready to take the next step and it may be quite a while before that happens.
Tad, take time to visit w/your mother or call her today. She needs you now more than ever. As for your lady friend, if she's truly in to you, she'll understand and be patient.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
