Me 8 months on, dark and trying to detach.

[hotwheelsaust]

GalBaby, many thanks for your continued support. I did read HopefulStill's write up. How will I take it all in, I don't really know at this stage.
Generally the W wants nothing to do with me, either via face to face or phone. She simply wants to move on (in her words), have the solicitor deal with the property and more than likely the divorce papers asap. She stated she did not want me to stay in the country town (Emerald) for any attempt at reconciliation or even MC. She advised she did not want to put any effort into the M, it is over, she no longer loves me......blah .....blah.
At this stage of my life, I will be moving back to the city (Brisbane) at the end of this school year. Subject to the transfer coming through, which will be the 19th September. I am now expecting the solicitor letter that was supposedly sent a few weeks ago, that I never saw. I will be attempting to purchase the houses off her, subject to the finance and lower valuations than was expected.
I am upset that she has decided to not come back for the boys, but, that is not my fault and cannot be my issue. I need to deal with those type of issues that are out of my control.
I have decided to simply continue going dark. I have taken my wedding ring off and now wear it on a leather strap around the neck. I still believe in my vows but can no longer wear the ring on the finger.
All I can look forward to is the last 5 months in the country, purchasing the houses (that will be a big relief) and continue my relationship with the boys. While on holidays back in the city it makes it really hard, the boys are working and don't really want to do much, but an occassional movie and dinner will have to suffice.
The W did drive down, but dropped the EA friend off about 2 hours before the arrival, at the EA's parents house. So the W is still relying on the friend for all the visits still.
Anyway enough from me, my 30 mins limit is running out. Will be back this time next week at country home, where I have the internet to use. Take care.