Take it to the limit

[Raine]

T I see a lot of similarities going on with my H too. The chatty times come both when he is having some clarity (being good, spending time with the kids, dropping ow) and when he is feeling guilty. I think that in both cases it's a testing of the water: is she still there, is she mad at me, does she know.

My H says something is wrong with him too, that he couldn't pin this on me no matter how hard he tried to rationalize it. He still has times of blaming me too though.

My H is definitely dumpster diving. One ow asked him if he would date her once he was through this. He said he didn't know. Ouch huh! I mean he couldn't even lie about that one to her. Of course the insecure ho took it like a trooper and was obligatory towards what he wanted, which was not to talk about dating or his situation.

I have also seen the projecting of me onto them. Taking one of them to my fav midrange restraunt for her bday, a place he doesn't care for that much. First and only time he took one out. I'm sure he was a nervous wreck about being seen.

I don't know if that helps or not.

I'm so glad you gave and received a hug I hope you have an awesome weekend with the family!