Karen - Thanks for responding to my thread! You're absolutely right about how there are issues that have not been dealt with completely and I think I'm only now starting to delve into those issues in IC. Would most definitely like to talk to a DB coach when my finances aren't so tight (those student loans are a killer!).
Cadet - Hi there! Thank you for taking the time to read my thread You ask a really good question--and I think sometimes I forget I need to take care of myself too. I've always been that way, not just in my romantic relationships. So I'm really trying to break the pattern and strike a better balance.
What am I doing for me? Hmmm...Weekly IC has actually been a great help for me in untangling my feelings about not just the situation, but about my life and how I was raised. I've been going weekly since August of last year and before that, I had a therapist back home that I'd see about once a month.
Socially, I can't say I've done much but I don't feel depressed about it. I'm kind of a homebody anyway and I don't drink anymore (because of my meds), so I do mellow things like go to bookstores, hang out with the few friends I have here, or talk to my best friend back home on the phone.
I'm also a writer, so I've been setting aside to write (which I neglected during the last year or so) and that has been really therapeutic for me. I also play music (and sing quite awfully) and that helps too!
I've started a Project365 this year where I vow to do 365 things that I've always wanted to do but never got around to. Some tasks are easy, like watching a bunch of movies I've never seen before, or learning how to cook a certain dish. I just started, but it's been a nice way to feel...less lost, I suppose. I guess I like the idea that I'm working towards completing something.
You ask a really good question--and I think sometimes I forget I need to take care of myself too. I've always been that way, not just in my romantic relationships. So I'm really trying to break the pattern and strike a better balance. 
