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Thank you labug and another stander for the advice. I admit I am new to this forum thing and was posting in panic states without giving enough info. I think I CAN and DO want to go home. I know from reading about others here that I do have the strength and the patience. I will address my daughters needs re: knowledge of OW when the time comes. I will not listen to ANY more reports of H & OW from back home. My focus has to be on me and I need to leave my mind open for some of the small successes I am seeing with H.
Since I posted these, my coach did clarify DETACH and I feel I understand it better. H was here for a visit and we've had some good talks on the phone.
It feels like SO much is happening lately...maybe I didn't get all the way off the roller coaster. H wants to come visit again, is calling, emailing, etc.
I need to write a description of current sit and post that ASAP. I also need to speak with my coach before H arrives. I am going to write up a summary and also my 180 goals for input.