By the way, If C feels pulled from every way right now...what a gift you offer by being one person that does not make her feel that way!
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always got to remember to act as if - It was the hopeful decision.
She is going to see her counselor tomorrow - I guess she will have alot to talk about - her desire to help her sis stay in her relationship. her desire to help her son stay in his relationship. her knowing that I want to stay in our relationsip. and she was watching the final episode of Sex in the City which was dealing with all of the 4 girls finding love.
Thanks again Laurie - I will likely give you another call in a week or so and fill you in.
1. C initiated IM frist thing yesterday morning and chat chatted for a few minutes
2. C initiated IM yesterday mid afternoon again and chit chatted for a few minutes
3. C did stand me up on the workout at the gym but was counseling Sis about why she should stay in her marriage in spite of H's prior affair (maybe some of that reasioning will rub off on her)
4. I called C last night after the workout and was upbeat, and told C not to worry about not showing and that I too hope that her Sis will stay with H. (we both have the same goal on that one) we talked for about 20 minutes.
[again my ASSsumptions about her skipping workout to be with OM were unfounded]
C has a 2nd meeting with C today - I can't help but think that this is good too
I want you to know that I think you are doing a great job with C. You are handling each situation with friendship and love! I loved the comment she made that said you were the one person not putting pressure on her! And it is a great sign that she is trying to keep everyone's R together, hint!
But, like you, I also am having down times. {{{hugs}}} This is really hard for me also. Especially when H is staying way far away! My thoughts are with you! Keep on the path you are on, Looks like it will turn out very well. You may not see it, but I do!
good morning all - I missed posting with my coffee this morning. not much contact yesterday she was out of office most of day and went to C yesterday afternoon - I saw her back online and just said a quick HI and we chit chatted a few. But I sense that she is back into the withdrawal phase again. Also see she has been online this morning but no initial contact - I will let her think about things today. I was suppose to contact her and babysit the puppy this weekend but I may just let it go and do it next week. (Our seperation papers do say I have visitation with the puppy)
I was also thinking of contacting her Brother in law - he likes to go bowling and I would like to maintain contact with them some - maybe a good chance to get out of apt. and talk with him some about his sitch.
Well I think this is the start of a no contact weekend - but something I have to go through. I am suppose to go flying again on Sunday and I am working tomorrow and I can keep busy most of the other times.
I just got through talking with Sis's H. He is very open to going bowling but we did not set up a time. He said Saturday afternoons would be a good time cept tomorrow is out - he is doing something w/ son for scouts. I told him that next weekend I may be camping too, so next week may be out too. We will continue to talk and will set up time - he also suggested that C and sis go too - I said fine but I doubt C would want to go - (I asked her to go bowling before but she said it messes up her fingernails) but I said that if they want to come and watch and talk and keep score the that would be great.
Anyway she will know I asked him and he may tell C I am camping next weekend. (I will have to go over to her house and get the camper though - I have no other place to keep it and she lets me keep it in her driveway)
Also - no contact w/ C today - I guess she is still thinking about her convo w/ counselor yesterday. I guess she will come out when she is ready.
Just wanted to stop in and say hello and thanks for posting on a question I posted in piecing a couple of weeks ago. From then until now, it really seems like there have been some real positives for you. The trying to save everyones families is real encouraging.
You helping BIL through their stuff is also real encouraging. DB principles will shine through and may even rub off. Who knows, maybe C will even pick up a few. As for the puppy, good going. I know it sounds insignficant to some, but puppies and dogs are important. They are next to children in time and commitment. My W is real reluctant to let me have visitation rights with our dog and won't let me keep her overnight. I get to see her once in a blue moon. Its really upsetting at times. Funny thing is, my W actually said the dog really misses me. But then she won't let me see her. Really makes logical sense.
LOL, I asked my H once if he wanted visitation rights! Our dog loves my H and if he comes and doesn't talk and love her she does a no no on my floor! Dogs are just like kids, oh yea.
Our dog wouldn't even come to H the last time he was there, dogs are very clever, I think she was picking up on something and made it clear to H that she didn't approve!
