Funny you should say that, Bond. When I told my psychiatrist that I was in the piecing phase she strongly recommended that we find a counselor. Nearly implying that you are almost doomed to failure if you don't have one. Foolishly, I think I was still so fired up to be moving forward I was worried (albeit subconsciously) that the introduction of a counselor to the picture would force XW to do some deep diving that would make her uncomfortable and she would, as a result, bolt. Well, we see how that all worked out.
When she said she was moving out again I told her what my psychiatrist had said about seeing a C and she said "that would have been nice to know". Since then, as noted, she has refused to go see a C despite agreeing to when moving out. No matter - I have hit the "acceptance" stage today.
BIG "note to self", though - next time we need to go to C. Period.
