"I love my new guy to bits , but i dont ever want to marry him,"
Why not?
"and i wont have him move in."
Why not? If you don't seem to want to progress and grow with this new guy it's unfair to him. Cut him loose so he can be with someone who really wants to see to his needs.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.