why don't you just beg off - perhaps say nicely you feel you'd be a needless distraction and he and the boys could "bond" and same with him and HIS parents-
wouldn't you be a sweet and caring spouse??? particularly if you've got the ANGER THING going on- you'd probably either explode in the car and then there'd be guts allover everyone- or blow a gasket keeping it in. why torture yourse.f ? would he do it for you. if he's like my h- not on your nelly. he'd take care of self - first.
allover this forum & in the books it touts "take care of you". if i could figure what to do for myself that would produce a feeling of "good" i'd grab it. no clue- BUT HERE you have a perfect thing- give yourself the gift of some time off from it all- away- rather than A GIANT DOSE of that which is making you crazy.
sometimes i go to fla (despite my limit4ed welcome - but "f" that) because i miss my neices and their kids (alot) - it's self-indulgent- and my mother hates it. - it leaves her pretty much on her own up here in nj because my other sisters just don't make an effort & she's lonely. (i feel badly she's got to reap what she's put out there - bad feelings and no body comes around - not even out of pity). it's sad- but it's her darn mean attitude for years & "i just have to be honest" - etc. she doesn't even back down now- when she needs the company badly- she'll still let ya have it every opportunity. i guess proving to herself she's still"the boss". idk-sad- i didn't break HER AND I CAN't fix her either.
I JUST DO IT- SOMETIMES I NEED TO GET AWAY from her critical and mean side- i just have to or explode allover the place.
how much do we need to shove this stuff down our own throats in the name of "right" and "decent thing to do" , guilt, etc>"???
i feel like a rat leaving a sinkin ship each time- yet i do it & call once a day and feelllll alot bettr to be away from it- it's like having a giant load off my back....
