Bond, AS, GTO, Adinva and Kate....thank you, your thoughts are greatly valued.
I'm with the majority on the kiss comment, I think it was rude. She makes other little similar comments about other things as well, and as Bond said it does build resentment in me, so I will let her now how it makes me feel when it happens next.
As I mentioned earlier I think its actually her that's the bad kisser, but I'd rather take the "lets work on it" approach rather than "its not me its you" approach. Anyway...I'll just stick to the closed mouth kisses for now.
I can't put my finger on what the differences are but the S seems to be right of the table the last couple weeks. Worse than normal. She mentioned during our last R talk a few back that there's times when she actually gets anxious when were alone and S could be on the table. But a week after that she completely initiated and the S was great-she didn't seem uncomfortable whatsoever. Hot and cold I guess.
What makes me feel worse about the last couple weeks is I know she's "taken care of herself" numerous times when she's home alone during the day. I have things in the drawer she keeps her vibe in and I'm embarrassed to say I've been paying attention to if has been taken out or not.
I understand there's many other reasons she could be doing this (stress relief etc) but it is still pretty deflating for me.
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I need to give myself more tools for communicating with W.
I'm not sure how often I should be bring up R talks.
Should I be asking her for more detail on her attraction issues or should I just leave it alone for now?
A few weeks ago when we had a bump in the road (OMW text), we talked about the fact she was waiting for feelings to come back but hasn't put any work into it. I feel like she still hasn't. I'm mind reading but its almost like she's rather just not talk about it.
I just bought Gottman's 7 Rules today to add to the collection.
