I am new to this. Have only been DBing for few months. I am talking to phone coach. I just don't feel I can wait the 2-3 years many of you have. I am all about GAL and taking the legal side slow, but I realize H has a LONG HARD journey with OW and himself and I right now I feel I don't want to go on that road. It's too long and negative. I am happy to do DBing steps for myself and my growth and IF something good should come out of it with him, great. But I don't want that to be my motive. I don't want to feel like I am waiting for him to see the light. I am learning more and more about his childhood and family and his personality that make me think he is too messed up for this to be anything less than several years. I feel I am at acceptance and ready to move on with my life. Are there any turnarounds within a year out there? How are you veteran's holding on so long and keeping yourself sane?
All your posts are now on this thread. Stick with it until you get to 100 posts.
I will come back later and try to give you some more advice.
To answer your question above by detaching and moving forward with our lives. Making a better US!
