I'm having another low moment again I just don't what my M to end I have been reading the DB book and there are many situation in the book that describes what has happened in my M. I would like to share these things with my H; I know I can't do this right now or I may never have the chance too. Its so hard not to share things with him, I've been trying to keep myself bessy and a bit away from home so that I don't sit there and think about our R. I'm still figuring out my life and how I'm going to live on my own with my sons if we end up getting a D.
I feel this way as well about my upcoming D, I'm just not ready emotionally for it. If you believe in God, then ask him to touch your H's heart. I also rang up a prayerline who said a prayer for us all. The following day, my H called round to say he'd delayed the D for a month so I can finish my college course. It is now coming up to that time again when he is going to see the solicitor. You don't have to sign the divorce papers you know, tell your solicitor that you are not emotionally ready for a D and s/he will be able to delay it. You can delay it for up to 2 years and in some cases up to 5 years. Is there anything that your H said that you could work on? With my H I was too messy so I'm going to start cleaning and tidying the house from top to bottom. A huge task in itself especially as I've got other things to do at the moment. Start doing more things with your sons helps as well, maybe have dinner together if you don't already, get out a games console and have a dance, get out a board game and play that. Your sons will start to get closer to you by doing this and may not enjoy going to their dads as much. You're right when you say there's not much you can say to your H at this moment, it'll just get his back up. Letting him get in touch with you is also a good idea as he may start to miss you. Also be kind and loving when he is round, not hugging or kissing or stuff, but simple gestures like making him a hot drink. Don't get mad at him, just talk friendly all the time and sympathise with any complaints he has. Don't give him further cause to divorce you. The way I see it, the nicer you are, the more likely he'll reconsider getting a divorce. As the saying goes, you can't shoot someone who hasn't got a gun
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
