Is this cake eating 14

[lost_hope]

I'm brand new so in afraid I can't even begin to help you. But for those questioning the OP or her children for not wanting to be around the OW maybe you have not had the distinct delight of having one woman assist in actively destroying your family. In my case my dad had OW. Although my brothers and I know my dad is to blame, we want NOTHING to do with this OW. We will never ever meet her. My parents are just separated and not legally divorced and if anything were to happen to my dad I dare her to come to the hosp to see my dad, I will kick her right out of the place!

I am 34, brother 32 and 24 and this happened 4 years ago. We all have never changed our minds. Only difference is my dad knows better and he doesn't even say her name. He keeps her totally in the dark from us. If he gets another woman, fine. But we will never ever be around the person who contributed to our mother's misery. We do love and have come to accept our dad though and that wasn't easy at first.

OP I feel for you. Your children are still babies and I know how much you and they are hurting. Be strong for them and never "make them" do anything unless they want to when it comes to that "woman".