I agree with Ad. The kissing comment is indeed a gift, so work on that .
Kiss her nose, eyelids, bite her lip gently...etc. Dude, you have carte Blanche and no lizard tongue required
Joking aside, that was a hurtful rude statement your W made btw. She did, however, tell you what she wanted afterwards. That is, close mouthed.. Remember, our first reactions when arrows fly are to deflect through blame, accusation and retribution. When you act instead of react, you allow the emotions to sit with you instead of making a joke or brushing it aside.
You would have gained major points with me if you had taken my face in your hands, looked me in the eye and kissed me the way I wanted
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