oh, I KNOW you are all over that coffee comment...
I'll paraphrase it since I don't feel like looking back to see how you wrote it, but I believe it went something like this:
"I've been thinking about going for coffee with other people"
Your "normal" way: "bastage is going out on a date and starting an affair"
Your "new" way: "Coffee? mmmmm... I like my coffee with a touch of cinnamon. I think that if he gets out more, maybe he'll lighten up. Poor guy's been working so hard. I should probably go out more often for coffee with friends as well. Maybe I could get some business leads and who knows, make some new friends. I don't get out much, myself."
OK, I'll admit I was just having fun with that one. The truth is, you are far too emotionally involved to even touch the coffee comment.
Honestly, coffee does NOT equal affair. TWO coffees does not equal affair. THREE coffees does not equal affair... Because you don't know that there will be emotional intimacy in that conversation.
Again, you might look at it this way: "Why the heck does he need to tell me he's going for coffee? Or that he's going for coffee with someone else? This guy's got to get his priorities straight. As much as I might be hurt by my idea of what having coffee with someone else might mean, he certainly does not need my permission to do so. I should tell him a few jokes so that he can share them with his coffee date and maybe remind him to drum up some new business during the coffee date."
