He needs to see, feel, and hear the affects all on his own. And the relationship is either good or not.
Anything you do or say will be seen as meddling or trying to "control" the situation and/or him.
BombOctober 2012- OW 11/28/12 -H still denies Separated 11/29/12 Own place 12/12/12 Confessed OW/EA/PA 2/2/13 Oct 2013 - I knew I was done Jan 2014 - Anticipating the rest of my life
