I'm back, on my own.

[canadianMrs.]

Thank you both! My D12 sounds like your S, she knows there was an A, as much as I wanted to protect her from that. She is very smart & observant. This meeting has set back the progress H was making with her, although I doubt he will notice. D and I have talked about her feelings a lot lately. She asked me if that was OW and I told her yes. I did feel bad about that & met with my counsellor who said it was right to answer her truthfully, just don't dwell on it.
For the 1st part of our separation D didn't want to go with H, she tells me now it was because she was so mad at H. She too wants to talk to H but doesn't feel comfortable. So sad since they are open books with me. My sons didn't mention much but to say they don't want H to have a gf. H thinks his relationship with our kids is equal to the one I have with them. He doesn't see that it's fragile. My counsellor has said that its not a safe relationship for them, in that they act like guests with him. S9 even said the other day that in our family we have a sister, 2 brothers, 1 1/2 mom & 1/2 dad. From the mouth of babes...
Do you ever mention your children's feelings with H? Or just leave it. It's so hard to see them hurt and he is non the wiser.
I do have plans for our long weekend! None with H, first time in over 20+ years!!