No, they have not won. The game is not over. You are the one controlling the game now (your life) and only you can affect the outcome.
I am not here to tell you everything is going to be alright. No need to blow smoke where it doesn't belong.
Just understand that "they" do not get to determine how you move forward. Take a deep breath and go for a walk or do something to get your mind off sitch for as long as you can.
It may seem impossible, I deal with it in my sitch every day, but you can be strong for you.
Me: 41 W: 36 M:9 yrs Together: 12 yrs Kids S7 S4 BD: 01/13 W filed 5/13 D final 8/13