I said something in a similar vain to my W when we briefly reconciled last October. She asked me to move to where she lives so we could be a family again. I told her that I was worried that she would leave again blah blah just like you did. She didn't react like your wife but the concerns were the same and she still pulled away.
I have been quite embarrassed about some things I have done or fell for in my sitch. It's hard but I find it helps to just let it out on here on try to move on.
It is very strange how she wanted you to just trust her, after she left you and divorced you.
It would make total sense for you to not trust her yet.
She's a WAS. You have been told many times that there is no point in trying to understand their behaviour. It will drive you crazy and stop your momentum.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14