I'm also having a hard time figuring you out. When you post to others, you have this confidence about you, and you always say something that makes me think, so I know you do the same with the poster you are trying to reach.
Yet when I read your thread, I see a different guy. A guy who is confused, and is really struggling hard to find peace with what has happened.
I second that PM. You give great advice to others, but then you turn around and put something totally different into practice yourself. Are you one of those "do as I say, not as I do" people? LOL! I'm just kidding you there, but do try to apply the same advice you'd offer others to your own sitch too. I think that's one of the benefits of posting to other people's threads, it helps us keep a clearer mind about our own sitches. Sometimes I stop and ask myself "if someone else was describing this, what would I tell them to do?" And then I do THAT instead of what my instincts tell me to do
