this morning C also told me to hang in there - told her I was hanging by my fingertips. then said it is a good thing that I have been working out so that my fingertips were strong enough to hold on.
I will not get my copy of that book for another week or so - looking forward to getting it.
Odga, At least you haven't lost your sense of humor! LOL How do you exercise your fingertips BTW! LMAO!
Do what C asks; hang in there, she wants you to so badly! You go! Our S's think we can never forgive them for what they have done to us. It's our job to assure them that we will hang in there and wait.
Been looking at your 6 stages of MLC and feel that C may have already been in MLC when we got married 2 years ago. in the first part of our 2nd year was already into state 3 - Replay. That is when she got her tattoo (little butterfly and later got her belly button ring). And I believe that stage 3 and 4 overlaped alot.
I will continue to be her friend - just let her know I am there even if she does not feel she wants any friends now.
maybe a good thing to come - C told me about a week ago that she hates the cold rainy weather we have been having here lately and was really looking forward to the spring. Well it seems we are in for some spring like weather starting tomorrow and lasting for a few days - lets hope it brightens her mood some.
I called C last night to wish her good luck this morning on an Important Business meeting she has scheduled for 7:30. We had a plesant conversation for about 40 minutes. I just chit chatted and asked about her and listened to her as a friend.
Seems that she has been really down lately - said she has been crying almost all day every day. She did go to a new counselor on Tuesday afternoon and she said that yesterday was the first day that she felt kinda normanl without crying and could talk with some of her clients. Her C told her that she may have reached her low point with the transfer of the old meds to the new meds.
I have to go see her over the weekend to pick up my office payroll checks - she still does that for me twice a month and it is a good way to keep in contact. Also I asked if I could keep my "son" (how she referrers to our chihuahua) over the weekend after next. She said OK and we will work out details later.
Seems that she has lots of emotions to deal with and will just take time to process it all. I will try to be her friend but since I am part of her Problem, she may not feel like I am. But I will let her know I am there.
This morning when I noticed she was online I sent her an IM asking about the meeting. she responded that it was more of the same but when I asked what was her gut feeling she said she was on phone and would get back in a min. Well, she never got back and when I left my office around 4:30 I sent her a quick IM reminding her to have her bookkeepr do my payroll checks - I waited for a couple of minutes with no response so I signed off and went home.
About an hour after I got home she noticed me on the home computer and sent me an IM sad face. Seems she forgot to tell bookkeeper to do checks before she left. I said no biggie in that can try to do them tomorrow, or on Monday or Tuesday as my office payday is on the 25th. She responded with OK and that she had to take puppy out before a client came over and then she was going out with S(21) for dinner. I sent a and thought that that was it for IM today. Well, almost an hour later she sent me an IM that Client was gone and S was on the way. I asked her to tell him hi for me and asked if she got the sale (she did) and I told her that I knew that she would. Then told her that I had changed my business web page some and asked if she would look at it as I would like her input. she said OK - no more IM but one of my new goals was for her to start initiation a "just for contact" IM again.
Well, I believe that the last IM fit that discription.
Another point of encouragement is that she said she was going to take some money from savings and pay for weekly visits to a counselor. I will take that as a positive for now.
and thought that that was it for IM today. Well, almost an hour later she sent me an IM that Client was gone and S was on the way. I asked her to tell him hi for me and asked if she got the sale (she did) and I told her that I knew that she would. Then told her that I had changed my business web page some and asked if she would look at it as I would like her input. she said OK - no more IM but one of my new goals was for her to start initiation a "just for contact" IM again.