Omg Sthelen, my wifes counselor is saying the same things. "sounds like your unhappy, find yourself, and move on from a dysfunctional marriage. Go out have fun, do what you want, this is all about you. Your kids are will be fine with it over time, kids are resilient."
I was shocked to say the least, this was a marriage and family therapist???
Theres nothing you can do, but give it time and space, and take care of yourself. Once our spouses got the validation from a therapist, the switch flipped to full on.
Hang in there, its a long roller coaster ride, but you need to act like your standing in the hot dog line instead. I know its tough, but its early in the game. Don't read to much into things he's saying or doing.
I think the saying is believe none of what he says, and half of what he does. Sounds like your doing good, much better than I did at first, im just starting to get it down, its such a fine line.
