Lost, confused and trying to make a stand

[Underdog]

Ellie--I just thought that since most of us here are not on as often as they are in newcomers, he would get faster and more support up there.

I have a friend up in Fort Collins that used to post here. I can't remember his DB name but his real name is Kevin to those of us who remember him. He tried his darndest to play nice with his XW for the sake of his kids. He was and IS a truly nice guy and a great dad. His XW was definitely NOT a considerate co-parent to their 2 kids.

He would tell you if he were here to go get that damned attorney now. The monetary costs will pale in comparison to losing your kids. Kevin even had to go to court post D after he found out that his XW petitioned the court to have their kids' last names changed to her new H. He won.

I have numerous friends - both male and female - in this state who have been screwed out of the justice system here. My business partner's wife (and by default, him) were out $200K to fight her XH. And they lost anyway. Her 3 boys are really screwed up now, and it didn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that it was going to happen.

If you think I'm trying to scare you, I am. YOU NEED PROTECTION. She's already making decisions without you, and that is just going to be a runaway train that gathers momentum, speed and steam.

And Rick is right. If you start this process unemployed, they are not going to see you with the stability you need to win the war.

One of the ads I've seen (I can't remember if this is the big red D one) is Cordell and Cordell. They have offices all over the state. Here's one of their quotes:

Denver Fathers Rights

A recent case involving a Colorado woman arrested for falsely accusing her ex of abuse in order to benefit in their ongoing child custody case is another example of the importance of having a Denver fathers rights attorney on your side.

False allegations of abuse are increasingly being used as strategic weapons in child custody cases to take away dads rights in Denver, Colorado. Why? Because women know they can strip away the rights of fathers in Denver by filing for an order of protection – even with little evidence for a claim – that frequently turn into sole child custody orders.

Having a Denver dads rights lawyer will ensure your rights do not completely vanish in court whether you are fighting false allegations of abuse or protecting your financial means to remain involved in your children’s lives.

If you are concerned with your rights being protected, contact a Denver fathers rights lawyer at Cordell & Cordell. To schedule an appointment, please call 1.866.DADS.LAW.

This is exactly why we're urging you to get on board. The sooner the court system has you in it, the faster you can prevent this from happening.

I also read in Newcomers that your W has previous drug issues. I suggest very strongly that you use that against her. If it comes into play, you don't want your kids to be in that type of situation. Besides, it doesn't sound like she's going to play nice with you at this point.

Best of luck.

Betsey