I need help.

I am spiraling out of control. My H is not happy, I'm sure because he has realized how he has hurt me, our kids and OW. I know I am getting pushy and I don't know how to stop it. I want him to give us a chance now that it is out in the open. I think he misses OW because he has spent the last 3 years carrying on a secret A.

I am not happy because I feel like he still doesn't care. He doesn't love me and he has said this and why he had the affair.

His moods swing back and forth minute by minute. I feel like he is ready for D one minute and the next he needs time. Today he is ready. I feel like I'm out of time. I'm tired of this also but because I feel like he won't try.

I have read what hopefulstill wrote on someone else's thread and it sounded like for him he asked his wife to give him 1 year with no communication.

This is what I want to try. I feel like I don't have anything else left. He said he has ended the A. He has lied so much I don't know.


M 48 H 50
M 25 T 27
D 20,18,15
6/11 H filed
3/12 H dropped
4/12 H moved out