S and I are communicating more although I still am having trouble being a good listener. I continue to go to MC by myself. I am able to keep a quiet and steady demeanor even when she raises her voice to me in a heated discussion.
She brought up our R recently. Nothing positive for the most part. She has recently stated that she is willing to go to MC with me. I think she is getting frustrated that I am not giving her any excuses to leave our R. I ran into her sister at the store on Tues the 25th. She invited us to a birthday party she is having for my sons cousin. I told her that W is going out with her girlfriends. I asked her if it would be okay if I brought the kids. She related to me that I was part of the family too and that I was welcome to do that.
Apparently, her family has very little idea about what is going on with us and our marriage. She said that she heard that something was going on with our M but didnt know what it was. The sister gently asked about what is going on. Aside from a few vague comments, I explained to her that speaking about our M would not serve my purpose of reconciling our M at this time and would only inflame my W.
I called her a little while later to confirm that she was ok with me bringing the kids without W. She said that it was.
Fast forward to dinner time last night:
I asked W if she had heard from her sister about the bday party and she said that she had. She said that she told sister that we were not able to make it. I told the W that I would be taking them and that I had already worked it out with her sister. Well, that went over like a ton of bricks. She lectured me that she was not happy about me going. I told her that I understood that she is unhappy about it.
Then, this morning, she asked me what I was doing today and I gave her a rundown of my schedule. When asked what I am doing on Friday (bday at 6pm) I told her I was taking the kids to their cousins bday party. She then said that she would now have to cancel her plans with her girlfriend tonight and take the kids to the party. I told her that I didnt want her to cancel her plans and that she should go out with her girlfriend. I told her that either way I planned on going to the party with the kids.
Well, she was not happy about this new developement.
