GM, Many of them leave the addresses the same until we put our feet down about it. When you receive mail for him, annotate on the front of the envelope "Return to sender. No longer at this address." That way it returned to the sender and if your h says anything, you can advise him that his mail returned. I went through the same problem, except my xh had 5 mailing addresses. His lawyer gave me two choices (1) hold the mail and allow him to enter the home to retrieve it; or (2) forward the mail on to her office. Hello? There was a third choice...change his mailing address. When they realized I wasn't stupid, she advised him to change his address. It's not that difficult to do and it can be done on line these days.
Now about the insurance, no more waiting on him. Advise your insurance agent of your situation and have them set you up w/you own policy as soon as possible. The reason being is that if he has an accident or a number of violations, the rate will go up. It's important that you do not wait on him to do anything because he will not do it.
GM, I wasn't surprised at all to read about the mail, insurance, and driver's license. They all do it to some degree. As for the phone calls, not surprised at all. Don't be surprised if you get more of them. It's his way of checking up on you.
BTW, yes, they expect us to clean up their messes, just like kids, but we shouldn't...we need to hold them accountable for their actions and the best way to do that is by doing what we have all suggested w/the mail and insurance. Cut the strings and allow him to face the consequences of his actions. Had you done this to him, I can assure you, it wouldn't have been as nice as you have been about all of it.
Hang in there. I think you've been handling everything beautifully.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
