I don’t know how the OM could NOT have “knocked you down” . How awfully jolting and my heart goes out to you.
Did the four days of backing off offer anything to you as well as giving space to the R? (Just wondering?) It appears that your intuition is something to be trusted, as it tends to work for you, right?
I wonder if your unconditional love might actually take on more significance to C, now that she is no longer hiding the OM R from you? Before when you were caring, she may have been able to discredit your efforts by thinking: “If he only knew about the OM, then he wouldn’t love me.” Now, that your efforts are continuing “in spite of the OM”, she may trust that more. I don’t know, I only wonder about that.
Also, she had a choice that hot tub night, didn’t she? How that night became so critical - if she clearly chose those destructive behaviors or by accident, it does not seem known. What you do know is that she talked to you and knew YOU would be the one coming by. Not the OM.
I continue to offer my support to you, OGDA. You continue to stay the course as best you can and stay true to your goals and your integrity.
Laurie, Divorce Busting Coach Contact The Divorce Busting Center at 303-444-7004 or 800-664-2435 if you would like to schedule a telephone consultation with a DB Coach - or email virginia@divorcebusting.com for info.
