I'm struggling with a very big decision. Since my H left I have tried very hard to provide stability and security for the boys. I quickly found a full-time job and have sacrificed to continue paying the mortgage. It's come at a cost. I don't have nearly as much time with the boys and I'm exhausted. It's hard enough being a single working mom, but the ongoing legal battle has left me depleted. I'm stressed and worried. My H has made things much more difficult than they need to be and I don't see that changing. I am seriously considering a very big move to another state. The cost of living is much lower and it would put the D to rest, finally.
There are so many pros and cons. I would be leaving friends and family, but I would be in the same neighborhood as my best friend and her family who have been a huge support to me. I would have a very low mortgage and I could be home with the boys until I chose to work again.
If I am forced to sell my house I will struggle where I am. Rent is very high and buying another home will be very difficult. It's a great time to sell here, but not a good time to buy.
One of the boys is very eager to move and the other is on the fence. It will be a big change for them, but I believe I can give them a much better life overall.
My H told the judge that he doesn't care where I live. He'll just see the boys when he can. He's so far removed from being a Dad. There's just no connection anymore. It's sad for the boys.
I'm done fighting for my house and everything else. I want the boys to be settled before school starts so I have a very small window. My new attorney will make one offer (I don't understand why that's taking so long) and that's it. I will consider reasonable changes, but I'm not spending thousands more on this D. It's just stupid and pointless. The boys and I deserve so much more than the uncertainty we've been living with.
