He's likely catatonic because you, the other half of the R, did something he didn't plan on. He may have planned to go on the way he was going, and you upset the apple cart. That's a natural way for a R to work, if you ask me. There are two people there.
No, you likely weren't a saint. But that doesn't mean he can treat you like that. And whether or not it's about controlling you or control in general, you took it as controlling you. You're likely right in how you feel, but there may be a bigger picture for him to deal with.
He needs to deal with it. And he can't expect you to continue accepting it forever. That's not realistic. You're not a pet, you're the other half of the R.
That said, you don't need to give him grief. It's not about that for you, from what I've read. It's about being treated as a partner in a R. You should not act out of anger. I never suggest that. But rather act out of best interests and what works for you or does not work for you. If he is willing to come together to work out a compromise you can both live with, then so much the better. If not, then he has a choice to make. Simple as that, and no anger or grief required.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
